I was overwhelmed the other day. All 4 kids were crying and I just threw my hands up and joined them. I kept thinking to myself: “Shouldn’t I have this down by now? Shouldn’t I be able to handle the kids better?” And for a moment I questioned if I was a good mother.
My kids are sweet, really they are, but there’s 4 of them all under 6 years old. And it is hard to be a full-time mother. I’m guessing other mothers feel this way at one time or another. (Do they?) I’m banking on the idea that it will get easier as the kids get older. (Will it?) I’m hoping that was just a weak moment and those feelings were born out of sleep deprivation and post-partum hormones. (What if it wasn’t????)
Do you ever question your mothering skills? How do you lift your spirits and encourage yourself while taking on the challenge of the most important endeavor in the world?
Go ahead and leave some advice on bolstering your confidence as a mother. I could use some mom-to-mom support about now.
I still question myself and mine are 10 & 12. I recently switched one of my kids to another school and I spent a month questioning if I did the right thing. I don’t think you are a bad mother at all we all have our days and since every child is different it is a challenge to meet all their needs at the same time. Praise yourself when you make it through a day like that even if you breakdown you made it. A good cry is great cause if you hold in all your frustration you might wind up taking it out on your babies. So I am glad you got it all out. I always say there is always a room to be better.
I still question myself and mine are 10 & 12. I recently switched one of my kids to another school and I spent a month questioning if I did the right thing. I don’t think you are a bad mother at all we all have our days and since every child is different it is a challenge to meet all their needs at the same time. Praise yourself when you make it through a day like that even if you breakdown you made it. A good cry is great cause if you hold in all your frustration you might wind up taking it out on your babies. So I am glad you got it all out. I always say there is always a room to be better.
Maria, girl a few weeks ago I put my husband and kids out of my room and told them all not to come back. My husband slept in the guess room. They were all getting on my nerves and I needed my moment. It’s fine. Cry with them or hand them all to your husband and shut your door till the morning. I do it although I used to feel guilty, I don’t anymore because dammit I’m not superwoman! But it gets better. take some maria time. Be sure to do that. xoxo
Of course you are not a bad mother! I understand the crying!! I started crying one day on my way taking my son to school. I was just tired! Being a GOOD mom is HARD AS A MUG!! (Didn’t want to curse!) But it really is. Being a parent (gotta give Dad’s credi too).And sometimes we need a break. I also find myself longing for the time my kids are grown and we can just kick it! But until then, it’s me cooking, cleaning, helping with homework and activites! It will get better. I am speaking to the both of us. But that is what Mother Groups are for!! Thank goodness for Mocha Moms! or just good friends.
Oh Maria! I feel the same way at times, and I only have one child to tend to. I’ve seen you with your children. You are a WONDERFUL mother! Your children are all so well-behaved, and obviously very cared for. Sometimes it helps me when I get out of the house for just an hour, even if it is just to go to Target and browse the racks of clothes I no longer have the money to buy 🙂 Hang in there, and really – keep up the good work, mama!